My husband (my second) was diagnosed about 4 months ago. I thought I was coping, but another fight/miscommunication has left me hopeless and grieving again. I can't face another divorce. I can't face feeling like I've settled for a sad marriage. I can't deal with the hopeless that comes when I feel like I'm talking to a wall - a wall that will never understand. Counseling isn't helping. I resent needing it. Can anyone understand? Can anyone offer hope? I've read that being married to an aspie is lonely. I feel it. I just can't face that this is somehow my life. How did I miss the signs? Why did I settle? Do I just need to accept that our relationship will always be "less than" what other people find?