Newbie - 1 twin may be autistic

Hi everyone, 

I'm Nupur. I have 2 year 3 months old twins - a boy and a girl. My daughter, Jashvii, hardly speaks and the developmental pediatrician said she may be autistic. She seemed mercenary so we're planning to take a second opinion.

Other signs my daughter exhibits -

Social skills poor - doesn't say hi

Scratches her head


Fond of music, can sing rhymes after a fashion

Poor eater

Plays with toilet water

Scared of loud noises like car

Eats carboard part of bed

Takes time to sleep

The OT said she would need to do many tests. Is that correct? I was 36 when I had my daughter.

I'm feeling overwhelmed. First twins, and now extra care.

Looking forward to your tips.