A commentary on the trend of considering parents who murder their Autistic children “mercy killers”

 

  Imagine you’re scrolling through online articles, looking for some interesting news, when this headline pops out at you :   Severely Autistic Boy Murdered By His Mother But Don’t You Dare Judge Her.   You assume, as many people would, that the title is meant to be sarcastic, some sort of commentary on the mother’s defence, it’s not, the author   honestly feels that you have no right to judge this woman.   The author paints the picture of a mother with nowhere to turn, a mother exhausted and unable to carry on, a mother with no other option, a virtual angel of mercy.   This type of article is all too common these days, and no, they don’t all relate to the same crime, virtually every parent who kills or attempts to kill their Autistic child is painted in the same light by some random author who feels sympathy for these parent’s “plight,”  

  The problem with this type of writing is that it excuses the actions of the murderer instead putting the blaim on the victim, a veiwpoint that may lead more parents to attempt to end their child’s supposed suffering.   What the article’s often don’t say is that there were other options, that people offered help but the parent denied, determined that they were able to provide the best care for their child, somehow though this went from best care to best death.   What the article’s don’t tell is that the child wasn’t suffering, they weren’t in pain, their health was not deteriorating, their Autism wasn’t hurting them, it was the parent who felt they were suffering, the parent who decided that their child’s life wasn’t worth living, that it was as the nazi’s may have said a “life unworthy of life,”

    This trend needs to stop, a murderer is a murderer regardless of who the victim is, and a killing is never a mercy killing if the victim had no say in the matter.   When you see people saying you shouldn’t judge a parent who killed their child, make it clear you are most definatley judging, it doesn’t matter who the victim was, what matters is they had a chance at a life, a future, and now that chance is gone.   Speak up for the victims, especially when they can not speak for themselves.  

 

Citation:

http://www.mommyish.com/2013/06/13/autistic-alex-spourdalakis-murdered-by-mother/2/

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