As a once ashamed but now proud Aspie, it can be difficult (I'm still learning) to understand the nuances of social cues. For me, it is like diagnosing a disease based on symptoms.
I was a teacher for 7 years and failed miserably in many aspects (suffered from PTSD during my work experience). As a chemist for 10 years, I find that world much easier to deal with but still think in a very different way than my colleagues. It makes it hard for me to voice honest questions and objections about the way we do things.
Being a Christian seems like a logical thing to do, once you get over believing in something when common sense tells you not to (faith). But it is nice to have a system of truths in the Bible that is self-consistent (though I understand not everyone agrees with this).
Before I get to why I am writing this, I would love to hear from other Christians with ASD. What are your biggest challenges and successes at church (regardless of age group)?
Anyway, I digress. I suspect that there is a 14 year old girl at our church that has ASD. She is a great kid, very shy, has trouble communicating with others and trouble reading. While she probably has a processing disorder of some sort, I think it goes beyond that. She is an incredible free-hand artist who can draw characters of any type (Disney, Marvel Comics, made-up and hybrid characters). She is on an IEP at school, but I fear that her differences are being swept under the rug and her talents are unable to shine through.
When I was young, my parents tried to make me as normal as possible. Despite extremely high IQ scores, they wouldn't let me join the special classes. I thought I simply wasn't smart enough until I found out this from other parents. But I couldn't fit in with the other kids. I didn't have any real friends except maybe for 1 good friend in high school.
BTW, I'm always looking for chat room buddies. I don't private chat 1-on-1 as I am married and don't want to put myself in an uncompromising position. I love model building (LEGO), math/statistical modeling (and developing games with math), board/card game creation, and am finishing my first full-length novel.
Anyway, have a nice evening. I struggle with discouragement and can be a bit thin-skinned about it, but I have also learned to thrive in spite of (or because of) my Aspie status.
I went to church for years but never fit in. It is a social club. If you have trouble with social they won’t like you. Church is the hardest place to find a friend. If you criticize or show any anger they…
Four year later! priest now a female! Keep thinking will go to social event at church, but now Covid 19 arrived here! Maybe later!