Church and Asperger's/Autism

As a once ashamed but now proud Aspie, it can be difficult (I'm still learning) to understand the nuances of social cues.  For me, it is like diagnosing a disease based on symptoms.

I was a teacher for 7 years and failed miserably in many aspects (suffered from PTSD during my work experience).  As a chemist for 10 years, I find that world much easier to deal with but still think in a very different way than my colleagues.  It makes it hard for me to voice honest questions and objections about the way we do things.

Being a Christian seems like a logical thing to do, once you get over believing in something when common sense tells you not to (faith).  But it is nice to have a system of truths in the Bible that is self-consistent (though I understand not everyone agrees with this).

Before I get to why I am writing this, I would love to hear from other Christians with ASD.  What are your biggest challenges and successes at church (regardless of age group)?

Anyway, I digress.  I suspect that there is a 14 year old girl at our church that has ASD.  She is a great kid, very shy, has trouble communicating with others and trouble reading.  While she probably has a processing disorder of some sort, I think it goes beyond that.  She is an incredible free-hand artist who can draw characters of any type (Disney, Marvel Comics, made-up and hybrid characters).  She is on an IEP at school, but I fear that her differences are being swept under the rug and her talents are unable to shine through.

When I was young, my parents tried to make me as normal as possible.  Despite extremely high IQ scores, they wouldn't let me join the special classes.  I thought I simply wasn't smart enough until I found out this from other parents.  But I couldn't fit in with the other kids.  I didn't have any real friends except maybe for 1 good friend in high school.

BTW, I'm always looking for chat room buddies.  I don't private chat 1-on-1 as I am married and don't want to put myself in an uncompromising position.  I love model building (LEGO), math/statistical modeling (and developing games with math), board/card game creation, and am finishing my first full-length novel.

Anyway, have a nice evening.  I struggle with discouragement and can be a bit thin-skinned about it, but I have also learned to thrive in spite of (or because of) my Aspie status.

Mark

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Biggest challenges at church... ...I must have been to around 14 churches. I seem to be incapable of making friends with Neurotypicals, not being able to initiate conversation probably cuts off any chance I have of that. I also generally find churches are stereotypically cliquey.

    I recently (past few months) went to a church that someone I know goes to, but I struggle to get there as it's 18 miles away and every 2nd week I get a carer who refuses to drive me there. I'm finding my experience at this church *hard* as I usually only talk to the person I know there. I still feel like an outsider there after over 3 months. I probably won't be going there much longer really.

    You can chat to me sometime, I actually collect Lego too and have a collection of around 200,000+ Lego pieces. I also have some nice card and board games which I play with the real life aspies I meet up with.
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  • Biggest challenges at church... ...I must have been to around 14 churches. I seem to be incapable of making friends with Neurotypicals, not being able to initiate conversation probably cuts off any chance I have of that. I also generally find churches are stereotypically cliquey.

    I recently (past few months) went to a church that someone I know goes to, but I struggle to get there as it's 18 miles away and every 2nd week I get a carer who refuses to drive me there. I'm finding my experience at this church *hard* as I usually only talk to the person I know there. I still feel like an outsider there after over 3 months. I probably won't be going there much longer really.

    You can chat to me sometime, I actually collect Lego too and have a collection of around 200,000+ Lego pieces. I also have some nice card and board games which I play with the real life aspies I meet up with.
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