Adult 24 yr. old son who I recently heard about Aspergers Syndrome and I think he has it.

My son lives at home with us. He seems normal in most respects and I just recently heard about AS, and it hit home. There seemed to be something wrong when he was growing up, but nothing obvious and I couldn't really put my finger on it. For example, if he said something cute and his father and I laughed with him, he would get angry and say "Stop laughing at me." He just doesn't always react normally in certain social situations, but you wouldn't think anything is wrong with him if you met him. He is smart and seems normal, but I've recently heard about AS and it hit home.

However, when I tried to get help, it was all for children and how to work with them. He is an adult, and I don't even want to tell him I think he has AS if I can't offer him any help. I don't want to make him feel bad about himself, I want to help him.

Anyone else out there like me? Anyone with information regarding how to help a young adult witih AS?

Thank you
  • Hi Gloria, I'm Barry. I'm 58 years old and have Aspergers. I wasnt diagnosed until I was 50. When I was in elementary school I read at a high school level and was proficient on several musical instruments. Since I also had terrible anger issues my parents took me to a therapist. The therapist said since my reading and writing skills plus my musical abilities were so high there was nothing wrong with me. I couldnt do math and still cant. I had no friends, no social skills, my eating habits were strange, and I had stomach problems and hated being touched. I spent my life not being able to hold a job because getting along in a workplace is close to impossible. When I turned 50 I read an article about autism and realized everything I read applied to me. I started seeing therapists and was told nobody my age can get a diagnosis of autism. i finally found a specialist who was willing to test me. When he said yes thats what I have it was like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. He then told me that there are MANY people who are my age that never got a diagnoses as a child. In the 1970's this kind of diagnosis didnt really exist. Therapists called children like me either lazy, unmotivated, or just fussy. In my experience the worst thing possible is growing older and not knowing why you cant do the things other people do. Jobs, marriage, children, a circle of friends ect.  For me knowing that I'm on the spectrum has given me a sense of normalcy. I know what I can and cant do and Im finally at peace with it. Since this post is 12 years old I would love to hear how your son is, Barry.

  • Could you try emailing me at  For some reason, I am not able to send you private messages here.

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